Skills · 15 June 2026 · 3 min read

How to Get Past the Gatekeeper (By Making Them an Ally).

The gatekeeper is not your enemy. Treat them as a helper and they will point you to the right person. Here is how to win them over, with the exact words.
Will Koning
Will Koning
Founder, meritt
meritt illustration: cold calling

The person who answers the phone is not in your way. They are your first real shot at the deal. I used to treat gatekeepers like a locked door. I would rush, talk fast, and try to slip past them. It never worked. Then I flipped it. I started treating them as a helper, and doors opened. Here is how.

The mistake most people make

Most people see the gatekeeper as a roadblock. So they get pushy. They dodge the question "what is this about?" or they try to sound important. The gatekeeper has heard that act a hundred times today. They know exactly what you are doing. So they do their job and shut you out. You did not lose because the door was locked. You lost because you treated the person at the door like a problem.

What good sounds like

Good callers treat the gatekeeper as a person worth their respect. They are warm and clear about why they called. They say who they really are. Then they ask for help instead of demanding to be put through. They might even ask the gatekeeper who the right person is. That small shift, from "let me in" to "can you help me," is the whole game.

How to do it

Be warm and say why you matter

Do not hide or rush. Give your real name and one honest line on why your call is worth passing on. Respect buys you a lot here.

Hi, this is Alex from meritt. I help sales leaders keep their best reps from leaving. Is Sam the right person for that?

Ask who is best to help, not just to be put through

This is the big one. The gatekeeper knows the building better than you do. Ask them to point you the right way and they often will.

You probably know this better than I do. Who owns hiring on the sales team these days?

Thank them and use their name

A gatekeeper who feels respected becomes your inside guide. Get their name, thank them, and they will remember you the next time you call.

That is really helpful, thank you. And sorry, I did not catch your name?

See the difference

Weak

Yeah, hi, is Sam there? It is about an opportunity. Can you just put me through? Vague, pushy, and clearly a sales call. The gatekeeper blocks it on reflex.

Strong

Hi, this is Alex from meritt. I help sales leaders keep their best reps. I am not sure who owns that over there. Could you point me to the right person? Honest, warm, and it asks for help. Now the gatekeeper has a reason to help you, not block you.

Same call. Same goal. One treats the gatekeeper like a wall. The other treats them like a guide. Only one gets through.

How you'll know it's working

You have got this when the gatekeeper starts helping you reach the right person. Listen back to your next few calls. Did you ask for their guidance instead of demanding to be put through? Did you walk away with a name you did not have before? If yes, you are there. The gatekeeper stops being a wall and becomes the fastest way in.

Questions people ask

How do you get past a gatekeeper on a cold call?

Treat the gatekeeper as a helper, not a roadblock. Be warm, give your real name, and say in one line why your call matters. Then ask who is the best person to help, rather than demanding to be put through. People are far more willing to guide you when you ask for help instead of pushing past them.

Should you tell the gatekeeper it is a sales call?

Be honest about why you called without making it a hard pitch. Say who you are and the problem you help with in one plain line. Trying to hide it backfires, because gatekeepers screen calls all day and can tell. Being upfront and respectful makes you stand out from the pushy callers they usually block.

What do you say to a gatekeeper to reach the decision maker?

Ask them directly, like a person who needs a hand: You probably know this better than I do. Who owns hiring on the sales team? Gatekeepers know the building and often share a name, title, or direct line when you ask politely. Thank them and use their name, so they remember you next time.

Why does being rude to a gatekeeper not work?

Gatekeepers screen calls for a living. Pushy or sneaky tactics are easy to spot, so they block you fast. Respect does the opposite. Treat them as a person worth your time. Ask for their help. They often become your inside guide. The fastest way in is to make the gatekeeper want to help you.

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